Today’s video is on:
Will-power
How do you get it back so you can break free as a Muslim addicted to pornography?
Check this video in sha Allah.
Share any insights you have in the comment box below.
Imancipate, Helping Muslims With Porn Addiction
Advice & Tips For Muslims Struggling With Porn Addiction
Today’s video is on:
Will-power
How do you get it back so you can break free as a Muslim addicted to pornography?
Check this video in sha Allah.
Share any insights you have in the comment box below.
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That makes so much sense, regaining your power by recognizing your real place in the world.
I’ve been trying everything from fasting, exercising, eating less spicy foods to lower my urge but I guess I was trying to really do it alone even though they were still acts of ibadah. Thanks for the video.
jazakallahu khair brother, indeed we are powerless and we have to rely on Allah’s help NOT our actions…
First of all, I’de like to say that the spam protection blocks my posts even though they’re not spam, maybe because I’m mentioning a software program that I really need to share with everybody.
Second, your video was really good, and I’m really glad you’re taking comments from us and using it in your blog, it makes us all participate in breaking free from porn and masturbation.
Third, I’m also really glad you focused on proposing a solution not just explaining the problem. But allow me to say, that even though you have provided a solution that one should start adobting, you have not proposed a practical solution that someone can do in his everyday life and see its progress and results. I know this is really hard and there’s no magical solution which will solve everything, but still your target should be to propose practical solutions that affects our minds and our hearts and our daily life and is reliable to break-free from pornography.
Let me propose what I mean, sharing your porn problem with someone else who has the same problem helps a lot. Fasting, studying, avoiding being lonely, playing sports, getting married are all practical solutions. Although you might need to use your intuition to come up with the most practical solution that one could implement directly in his own life.
About the chemicals in the brain, how can reverse that reaction ? What food ? What diet ? I’m sure when it comes to porn and masturbation, there are food which actually causes you to be driven more to porn (such as spices I think) and there are food which gets you away from it. I’m not a professional, but you are. And you really should start proposing practical solutions.
But yet again, this video also proves that practical solution is not the only thing, submitting to god and asking for his willpower is also necessary. I’ve prayed and asked god a lot to help me get rid of this, and I have had some progress. In fact, I have been able to stop masturbation for 2 weeks, when I had exams, and I was afraid watching porn or masturbating will make me fail my exams.
Overall, I thank god for guiding me to your blog. I am following you really closely, and I’m just suggesting that you offer practical as well as spiritual solutions to break-free.
May Allah help all muslim brothers who suffer as much as I suffer from breaking free from this very harmful and shameful act.
Thank you Zeyad. Thank you sincerely.
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Assalam uAlaikum
Brother Zeyad: May Allah bless you beyond what words can describe. You have given us invaluable advice. JazakAllah Khair
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You Brother: Akhi, this IS practical advice. In 13 years, I didn’t realize this till a few weeks ago, that I really can’t give up without Allah’s help. So what does this realization entail you to do? When you truly realize this, this will change your attitude toward life and it will change your level of trust in Allah. Furthermore, It will lead you to make even sincerer du’aa to Allah. Why? Because you know that you can’t win without Him! So why not invoke Him more to help you out? I can honestly say that realization of this advice will REALLY change the status of du’aa in your life and your level of trust in Allah.
I have tried to make it a routine to wake up 15-20 minutes before fajr and Plead Allah to help me out and give me the sincere repentance that I don’t have. Just make it really since and make whatever comes to the heart. This is really a beautiful prayer that a friend gave me:
O Allah!
I cannot do this. You know I cannot do this.
But I know that you want me to be pleasing in your eyes and that you chose me to be as perfect as you are.
I beg you to do what I cannot do. Give me the repentance that I don’t have. Save me because I cannot save myself. My attempts are human and they can’t impress you, but you created all out of nothing, and you can regenerate me out of this filth.
Make me a new creature, start your new work in me, keep regenerating me and finish the work you start. I leave my whole self in your hands. Teach me how to love you and make me as you want me to be
Also, with utmost respect, I don’t think that filters are the solution at this point. Filters should be a good solution when the raging battle in your body has won. Let me give you an example: As a student of psychology, I’ve noticed that a person addicted to porn has 2 personalities inside of him. Yes, basically there are 2 people inside of 1 and they are at war with each other. The Beast (this is what I call it) desires instant gratification, lust, porn or masturbation and will only calm down once this has been achieved. The Knight (the other guy) is helpless when you in the ‘mood’ to act out and you hear him when the act is over or when your on that spiritual high and feeling chaste and religious. There are times for each and I’m sure that many of you can relate to what I’m saying. Now, if this beast has been winning for years upon years, do you seriously think that you can just put him in a cage (i.e. filter, cutting off internet access, etc.) and it’ll go away? Yes these are good TEMPORARY solutions. Why? Because as Zeyad said in the last post that once your in the mood to act out, a certain part of your brain takes over and you ONLY think about acting out and if you don’t use the computer (because you can’t), believe me habibi, the mind will find another way to satisfy itself (whether it be going to the local swimming pool, going to the gas station and picking up porn magazines, watching nudity on the TV, etc). Hence, the problem doesn’t lie upon society only (although from my experience, environment has a tremendous impact–I hate it when I go to college towards summertime), but rather the problem is in ME and YOU. Hence, the solution that has helped me tremendously is working on correcting that my subconscious and that beast within me.
For this there are a number of solutions. Hypnosis is a good one–If you can make it work properly and Affirmations are excellent also. Once they become firmly rooted in the mind, they, first and foremost by the Will and Help of Allah, change your entire pattern of thinking. Also, another excellent (but very expensive solution) is Alphalearning. Anyways, just to let you know, I’m not affiliated or associated with any of these. I’ve just tried some of them and Alhumdulillah found that they helped greatly.
@Abdullah: JazakAllah khair for your kind words. I read your comment today with the rest of the Imancipate team and we were really excited for you with this huge breakthrough.
That is a blessing that Allah swt has given you Qiyam-ul-layl. Start thinking of it from now on as Allah blessed you with waking up 10-15 min before Fajr rather than you woke up 10-15 min before Fajr.
I’m pretty sure that’s what you mean anyways but it’s a good practice to proactively think and attribute all good you do to Allah swt. When you are thankful Allah will bless you with more in sha Allah.
Out of curiosity is this other friend someone else who is strugglign with pornography as well or is this someone you confided in?
Also, I forgot to add as a suggestion:
Zeyad, I think that we should start a forum. This will be a great sort of encouragement for each others and people could share more useful points. I believe that the only hassle is getting the forum up and running and once thats there, its smooooooooth sailing
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why cant i seee the videos??
can anyone help?
@Zayed: What kind of browser are you using Zayed?
Assalam uAlaikum
Zeyad, you are very right in saying that this is a blessing of Allah and not from my own effort (to wake up before fajr). JazakAllah Khair for the reminder as some of the salaf have said that Allah cannot be obeyed without His Mercy and Help.
As regards to the friend, this is actually a friend that I met online and I’ve talked to him quite a few times. I have talked to some shuyookh anonomyously (by sending them questions online) in addition to this friend but thats about it. This person is actually someone I asked to help me out and as someone well educated in human psychology he did give me some very intriguing insights to this problem. No he doesn’t have this problem with pornography but he is helping me and others help get out of this mess. I have sent you some of these insights in an email that contains a message that I tried to post in these comments but due to the spam filter I wasn’t able to. Please review the email and see if you can post these comments here so that other brothers can read them also (I realize that at times the comments are quite blatant but I do hope that you’ll still post them up here as they do contain many points of benefit. I sent it to support at imancipate dot com). If you want to contact me further…you know my email
May Allah keep you under His Safety.
assalamualaikum …
subhanaallah …anyway this make me realize that wat the most important is ur will power ..how bad u wan to stop all this sins is up to u and the best hope to get is from Allah.subhanaallah .Love islam ..
Hey Brother,
Thanx so much for the video and helping us out in this fight. JazhakAllah khair. Normally, I don’t watch Porn but I end up watching whenever I am studying. Sometimes, when I come back from work and then get ready to study.. it sometimes gets very hard to concentrate on the studies and then later I end up in watching porn. ALhamdulilah nothing normally bothers me, I just get frustrated with my school studies or exams and then I end up watching porn.
I have tried everything.. fasting, praying Tahajjud, extra prayers, keeping busy in sports and then even reading Islamic Articles like:
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said, ‘The person who performs Nikah with his hands (i.e. masturbates) is cursed.
But I come back with these again. So in this case what should I Do?
thank you
AA,
wow this is prob the best and most powerful advice i’ve come across. I mean i know subconsciously that i should be asking Allah for help and relying on him, and of course it sounds simple. But, there are times when one does break out of the porn cycle temporarily, one tends to give credit to his will power and oneself. Alhamdullilah this video has made me realize even further that my actions are meaningless w/o me affirming that Allah is the one that can cure this problem and give me the strength to overcome it.
Asalaam Alaikum Brother Zayed:
I hope you are healthy and well. I really enjoy your educational videos. I am trying my best to stop watching porn but I am still masturbating at times. I really like the line whee you stated becoming powerful through powerlessness. I found it ironic willpower is a loan. That is interesting. When you rely on your actions over and over and again without relying on Allah SWT you have no willpower. I really found this line powerful. Cam you also send me the verse on Surat Azab. I hope I can go back to being a normal human being some day. This masturbation I wanna get rid of once and for all. Thank you for sending me the videos. It is highly appreciated.
Abbas
brothers asalamu caleykum ? im 21yrs old am married i have a daughter thats a 11month old mashalah, so im addicted watching porn vidoez subhanalah and i dont knw how to stop of watching it. i ask god forgivnes at all da times and im still watching at the sometime brother help plz…………………
جزاك الله خيراً
فأبين أن يحمِلْنَهَا… سبحان الله.. و حملها الإنسان!…
يحمِلْنَها و ليس يحمِلَنَها…
Narrated Ibn ‘Abbas:
I did not see anything so resembling minor sins as what Abu Huraira said from the Prophet, who said, “Allah has written for the son of Adam his inevitable share of adultery whether he is aware of it or not: The adultery of the eye is the looking (at something which is sinful to look at), and the adultery of the tongue is to utter (what it is unlawful to utter), and the innerself wishes and longs for (adultery) and the private parts turn that into reality or refrain from submitting to the temptation.”
It is a thing decreed, so if you be patient and try to oppose it as much as possible Allah will reward you.
Dear brothers and sisters, we are men, and this is what men experience, so consider yourself upon the fitra. The problem is the society, and the greedy-inconsiderate people around us. This sexual power we possess is a gift from Allah but can be channelled through only ONE halal mean, and that is a wife. Their is nothing we can really do but find a girl.
We must try all means possible to oppose it, the key is to never give up. You fall, just get back up. The more you seek Allah’s forgiveness, the more you are seeking Allah’s pleasure. The more you realize the reality of our societies and the people within them. Every men must is oblige to atleast one women, however the women are selfish and rediculously high standards (money, car, etc). Through this problem one realizes how disfunctional western societies are and appreciates the hikma brought to our propphet such as Hijab, early marriage, accompany of women with man at all times, niqab, burka. Allah is showing us that his Shariah is above all. It is the mercy of Allah that he didn’t allow us to assimilate into the Kaffireen societies as we cannot survive in them. May ALlahh open up wisdom for us, by his permission.
Alhamdulillah thank you brother.
By the way,do you have any practical solution?
this masturbation has destroyed my life whenever i look back at the years i lost i just give up hope on life. i just cant seem to move on from my past and its stuck in my head. i just feel like a piece of sand and this is what is motivating me to overcome this habit I AM DRIVEN BY ANGER.EVERYTIME A BAD THOUGH COMES TO MY MIND OR TRY TO WATCH PORN I JUST LOOK BACK AND TRUST ME THA MAKES ME FEEEL DISGUSTED..this works for me it might work for other people. just rember how this habit destroyed your life.. and are you ready to let it continue to destry you
We must try all means possible to oppose it, the key is to never give up. You fall, just get back up. The more you seek Allah’s forgiveness, the more you are seeking Allah’s pleasure. The more you realize the reality of our societies and the people within them. Every men must is oblige to atleast one women, however the women are selfish and rediculously high standards (money, car, etc). Through this problem one realizes how disfunctional western societies are and appreciates the hikma brought to our propphet such as Hijab, early marriage, accompany of women with man at all times, niqab, burka. Allah is showing us that his Shariah is above all. It is the mercy of Allah that he didn’t allow us to assimilate into the Kaffireen societies as we cannot survive in them. May ALlahh open up wisdom for us, by his permission.