Imancipate, Helping Muslims With Porn Addiction
Advice & Tips For Muslims Struggling With Porn Addiction
Did you know that pornography is actually more potent than crack?
Ever wondered why it’s so hard to break free from porn?
Read the hadeeth of our beloved Muhammad alayhi salatu wa salam that, “Eman leaves a person at the time of zina, until it is like a cloud over his head”?
Check this video out to get the connections.
Share any insights you have in the comment box below.
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Assalaam alaikum.
That’s an excellent point comparing porn addiction to crack addiction – with evidence behind it.
Seeing there’s a role of chemicals in the brain, how does it get triggered/stimulated and what kind of cycle does it go through?
Plus, what effect at a biological level (obviously spiritual too) does fasting have on this?
Jazakallahukhair akhi Zeyad.
Assalaam alaikum.
What exactly are the effects on the brain and also what can we do to avoid the chemical push back to it?
Jazakallahukhair akhi Zeyad.
As I mentioned in the video, there is a strong connection between the “memory” of the limbic system in the brain and your desire to get feelings of pleasure or avoid pain and the effect that has on your ability to choose between right and wrong.
So it goes back to rewiring your limbic system’s “memory” over and over again and giving it a new meaning of how you can meet that emotional need.
Salam Alaikum,
I’ve never seen an Islamic connection made like that, combining the science with a hadith, at least not in the area of pornography. That was really powerful. – Jazakum Allahu Khairan.
So it goes back to rewiring your limbic system’s “memory” over and over again and giving it a new meaning of how you can meet that emotional need.
How do you rewire your limbic system’s “memory”?
I like the details given in this video. I had heard that pornography is related to a chemical addiction but learning about the frontal cortex and hypothalamus explains it more clearly.
How else can you meet that emotional need? That’s a great question!
Asalam ALyekum,One has to realise that there is CHOICE Point when making a Decision.What our subconscious mind does play a game with our Conscious Senses.More of it we have to embrace our Passion as a gift from Allah s.b. and find the Courage to Marry a sister Inshallah Allah makes it easy on us in this Dunia and Akhera.
I would have been a perfect person and I would have changed the world if I hadn’t unlocked the pin code on my receiver and watched the first porn channel on the hotbird satellite. I remember that instant very well, cause it was the first time I see pornography and from since I started a road which continues to ruin me everyday. Masturbation is killing me slowly and screwing my health. I have looked everywhere for someone to guide me, I’ve search youtube for islamic videos regarding that but nothing, nothing what so ever is compared to this.
This is the first time I see someone giving details, scientific details, and explaining everything, from a scientific as well as from an islamic point of view. You are the best, I’m really glad I clicked on the facebook ad.
But there is a major point that I wish you would consider brother. You didn’t mention the cure, I’m still gonna watch all the videos, in fact I’m gonna live in this website, but you didn’t even reference to any video that contains the cure. I believe the chemicals in my brain exactly as you said controlling me and the frontal cortex hasn’t got much to do. Could you please tell me what’s the cure ? Is it a certain medicine ? Is it doing something ? Is it just getting married ?
Salaam Alaikum,
Wooow. This vidoe litteraly sums-up of what ppl who are addicted to porn and masturbation. I am guilt of it. I have never come to realize that the reason all my promises and regrets always got broken, is because of the chemical in our brain. I have always tried harder and harder to cut this kind of habbit, which never happned.
Insha’Allah, after watching this video, I am 100% sure that I have found the cure me and many of brothers have wondered.
This is an eye opening and brother, you will get every ajar that comes with. I hope you post more like videos soon, so many of us can learned from your highly informative videos.
Jazzakumullah kair.
Bismil-lahi Rrahmani Rrahim
Salaam Alaikum,
to all the brothers and potentially sisters as well, since being that we were created equal by Allah, we shouldn’t discard the possibility that even the female gender tends to get trapped into the same traps that male gender gets trapped into.
In the following I will try to give a contribution fisebirilah based on the help and guidance of Allah and my own efforts, in battling my own porn addiction (or the desires of flesh as the Messenger of Allah used to call it).
I also want to point out that all the obstacles that we face in life regardless of what nature they are we should all understand that they are part of the Kader of Allah to test us out in how we deal with our own individual internal struggle better known as Jihaddu neffs (the struggle against our own evil desires of flesh).
-Every time I watch porn it leaves a feeling in the aftermath that I can easily identify as a feeling that resembles an erosion of the soul, and based on the hadeeth (from the video clip) obviously it is an erosion of imman, that I’ve been feeling in the aftermath.
I will try to give out some tips or suggestions based on my own experiences I have had in fighting off porn addiction.
1. One should try to strengthen his/her connection to Allah, by practicing more of the sunnah of the Messenger of Allah, and in cases where one has deficiencies in practicing the obligatory 5 daily prayers in their proper times, should immediately get to work on establishing them before expecting to see any progress on wining over this evil addiction of our own selves. (possibly triggered by the shaitan)
Lets all not forget the Ayat of the Qur’an where Allah says: “Verily salat wards off evil actions”…. (Salat-the obligatory 5 daily prayers)
2. Also marriage is very important in helping cure this addiction since the real life partner can become the halal replacement for the haram porn web browsing we do.
Marriage is half of the imman, the other half is the remainder of our actions in life, (as the messenger of Allah p.b.u.h. explicitly reminded us over and over again), wile those who don’t get married they run the risk of becoming brothers & sisters of shaitan…
Allah’s messenger (p.b.u.h.) recommended for all those who can’t afford to get married to fast 2 days a week (I think it’s Mondays and Thursdays).
3. In the context of the topic, when one still has difficulties fighting off porn addiction although one is married we should try to find replacements to the addictive behavior by applying alternative activities to porn ones.
I have found that keeping yourself preoccupied with:
reading, going outside for a fresh air walk or even socializing with friends and family cuts down significantly my urge to look at porn.
4. However the best protection for me, this far has been re-establishing the 5 daily prayers in their proper times and the addition to them of the sunnah prayers as well followed by fasting on periodical basis.
-In the end the best warding off, of evil actions or undesirable compulsory behaviors is reliance in Allah for help, guidance, perseverance and protection from the evils of ones self, the evil of shaitan and the evil of that which leads us into kuffr or shirk.
ALLAH loves when we turn to Him seeking salvation from the evils of our own selves, the evils of shaitan and the evils of that which leads us into disbelief (kufr) or shirk (idolworship).
I hope and pray to Allah that this will be of any use to anyone out there muslim or not that wants to defeat this negative pattern of compulsory addictive behavior.
And as for the brother who decided to post this issue for all of us who find ourselves on this page to see, learn and share; Insha-allah you will be rewarded in dunya and ahira, for every effort we might try to make after reading and watching this topic.
Salaam alaikum we rrahmatallahi we barakatuhu
P.S. May Allah, the most merciful the most compassionate guide and help us all stay guided.
AOA Brother!
A very nice lecture indeed, may Allah help and guide you in giving such important lectures. Brother, you have given the reasons for how we are able to get addicted to porn, but what is the way/trick to stop feeding our urge of watching porn? Frankly, if a person does not indulge in sex or masturbation atleast once a week or even once in a month, it affects you badly. I know that it’s about people who watch porn daily or masturbate more than once a day, but it’s something worth considering. Please do give feedback.
@Habeel Yeah I agree with you 100%, all that energy inside left can overhwlem you if you do nothing with it.
Here’s the catch though, the Prophet pbuh did not instruct the men of this Ummah to masturbate once a month because it affects you badly.
So it’s worth considering that the men of the past had the same sexual desires that we have today and that’s not how they dealt with it.
I’ll be talking about this in a future post in sha Allah along side with the common belief that “At least this is better than committing zina”
@Abdullah: JazakAllahu khayran for your words and advice to others.
One of the mistakes men actually make is actually thinking that marriage will solve it.
If you read the comments of some of the brothers on here as well they are married but they are still struggling with pornography.
When you haven’t let go you actually bring pornography into your bedroom.
Kinda shocking but true.
So we can assume that marriage is NOT the MAIN solution although yes having healthy intimate relationships is definitely a great blessing from Allah swt.
@Abdi Thanks for stopping by Abdi. I could sense that there was a sense of relief from you watching this video alhamdulilah knowing that you are not just “messed up”.
Please come back I’m going to do my best to post two videos a week in sha Allah
@Hazem: JazakAllahu khayran for your courage to post. You are not alone in this struggle brother and I’m sorry for the effects this has had on your life.
One of the things that I’ll talk about later is how your porn addiction can lead you to Jannah.
Yes.
I said to JANNAH.
Please stay posted in sha Allah and spread the words to others.
@MorningWind: Yes, emotions as much as men hate them, they are actually his best friend and a great gift from Allah swt.
Emotional mastery is a HUGE compenent of breaking free.
assalamualaikum..what a great information for me.i am one of muslim porn addictor.i just wanna get out from my porn cycle.everyday i commit it.even i know that it is a sin but i just cAnt figure it out on how to stop it.help me, please.
thank you.
Salaam Alaikum :
True, and we have to remember that everything wrong we do is because of Shaitan trying to get us to do wrong.. and the best way to keep your bad intentions away is by keeping Shaitan away (prayers, Quran and getting closer and closer to your religion and Allah ) not just pornography but every problem you have in life will go away.
Assalaam alaikum brother
Alhamdulillah! I’m able to understand the chemical imbalances that’s leading me to the problem of pornography.
But the question remains: how do I take control of myself, and prevent those chemicals from taking control of my brain??
Please shed some light on it!
Jazakallah Khair!
Assalamualaikum Wr. Wb,
Sholawat to Rasulullah P.B.U.H and his family.
I am here to grateful for the Video that incidentally found on Facebook that made by Zeyad Ramadan if I’m not mistaken. I have also human being that really have this big deal.
This is why I always pray to Allah everyday to help me find the way to reduce this kind of sins and grateful to Allah (that my life in His hands), this video came up as a refreshing and enchanting also reconstruct the way I think about life.
Once more time, keep this websites up in the future for our children also, so they will know not only from us but from Hadith and Science view. Thank you, Thank you and Thank you very much to Zeyad Ramadan. You save my life.
Jazakumullahu khairan katsir. Sholawat to the prophet Muhammad P.B.U.H and his family.
Wassalamualaikum Wr. Wb
Ali Reza
Well, thanks man for building up this site. I learn what you have taught, but sometimes it can be really difficult. But after a few days, I quit from porn and I feel very happy. May Allah bless you, man. Assalamualaikum.
hey, it really got me. am gonna share my story if its possible. 1 week ago i had sexual relationship, since that day till now, i stopped watching porn, or doing anything else. ( i dont know the reason) but the thing i dont know how longer i can hold my self. thank you
i really understand everything in your video ( am a medical student) but do u have any idea how we can stop this?
am so thankful guys like you still exist not only you, but the commenter 2.
Jazak allah Alf khier
Assalamualaikum brother,
Thanks a lot for a nice explanation.jazakullah khair.
Salooom guys,
Is there any solutions to have like a method to stop this feeling
I do find one.. start playing some games or go eat or just start doing some fast sport, jumping, pushups…… it does cracks the whole feeling some times…
Salam to all brothers,
Marriage is the answer…
@Safwan: Success is counter-intuitive brother. You would think that marriage is the answer. But how come there are hundreds of thousands of married men that are STILL addicted to pornography?
Instead of always hiding my reality, I want to face it until i solve this porn problem. Everyone who is watching these videos have the courage and bravery to stop this evil so lets do it.
@sinan: Thank you for your courage and bravery brother. May Allah swt give you strength to do what is right.
That’s such a great explanation ma sha’ Allah
Are you offering solution somewhere? or sometime later on?
@muslim Yes in sha Allah there will be an online seminar that you will be able to attend anonymously.
Good video. What you have told is what I already know. The reason is because I’m A.D.D and we have severe lack of control due to lack of chemicals in our frontal cortex. What I didn’t understand in this video is how to control this. Please if you have some solution which doesn’t base on medicine since I have tried medicine for my A.D.D and it has some terrible side effects. Help me if you have solution to this problem. Thanks.
@Ray: I’m with you on that. Part of the problem is the addicted culture we live in and how we are conditioned to solve problems. We are taught whenever you have a problem go to the doctor and then you must take some medicine or pills that will make you better.
For some people yes medicine is a must but a majority it is not.
Yes tying your camel is part of tawakul but when you take out the reliance on Allah swt as the One Who Heals and you only believe medicine is the thing that heals you then you have a problem.
And because of that we subconsciously “mini-idols” that we take to worship besides Allah swt.
Zeyad, thank you so much for this video! I look forward to your future clips.
Great stuff!
Yours in recovery
Bill the Tayder
http://www.pornaddictioninfo.com
Ok, so now I know why is it so hard to stop watching porn. BUT, How to stop it? how to stop this chemical in the brain from controlling me?
Jazakum Allah Khairan.
But these videos give no solution, other then recognition.
@Sam 2: Well before you can change something you need to know what you are changing exactly. Having clarity over a problem in your life and being able to see it from 20 different directions is extremely powerful and gives you a lot of control on the situation because you can be proactive rather than just react all the time. That is why the majority of those in recovery will relapse after a few months of being sober.
Okay, thanks alot for the video, Masha-Allah, but the thing is that you’ve only stated the cause of pornography in a even more scientific detail which is good, but right now, we’ll be happy to have a cogent solution to this destructive fitnah. May Allah (SWT) help us all (ameen)
Salam Brothers,
Jazzakum Allah Khair to all those who have contributed to this blog. I feel like this is a very important topic that Muslim brothers should not hesitate to discuss amongst each other. This is an example of some of the “Real” issues facing our ummah. First of all I want to point out that I am no scholar, I am not a doctor, and not a English major, and my opinions are gathered all together from experience and random research, and lastly I apologize if the writing is a bit confusing.
Bismillah Al Rahman Al Raheem
What is a Habit: a behavioral pattern regularly followed until it becomes involuntary. Habits differ depending on their levels of intensity. The three levels of intensity are: 1. Psychological ( train of thought), 2. Physical (Motion), and lastly 3. Physiochemical (chemical release in the brain). Each habit can be defined by these factors that it affects. Some habits are limited to just our personal train of thinking; others are coupled with physical actions, And lastly some few habits cause chemical release in our brains. Depending on the Habit, the last classification is the most profound because it is the most difficult type of habit to break!!! It affects us on multiple levels and causes chemical factors to be wired which can be imprinted in our brains. For example Smoking Cigs, Why is smoking so hard to quit, smoking is triggered by a 1. thought, you engage in the consistency of the 2. motion, and most effectively the chemical release of nicotine which causes a chemical addiction. How many of us know some one that is addicted to the gym, (Positive habit by the way) You go to the gym you are constantly in motion, we all know working out has been proved to release endorphins! Depending on the CONSISTANCEY of your habit and the joy it brings you will grow more and more addicted. Consistency IS KEY!!!! “Practice Makes perfect” “Work on those free throws” Study those not cards, Water your plants, clean the house… etc etc etc.
SubhanAllah I can’t help but think of Salah; When Salah is performed correctly you are engaging in a habit that effects all three levels. You have focused your 1. thoughts on Allah, you are constantly engaging in 2. Submissive constant Motions throughout Salah, and lastly any strong/intense emotions of love, fear, and happiness can cause chemical release of hormones. When we make Salah a habit, some know how difficult it is to break, it brings a spiritual addictive type of joy to our lives!!! Give that some thought and ponder the use of consistency with regards to Islam. Even in the Quran Allah Repeats him self over and over and over again, It is deliberate, # of Salahs, # of Tasbehat, # Wudu, ETC Allah Knows that with consistency: Actions will become habits, concepts will be imprinted, they will become part of our life and will help us continue to strive to be pure and clean. , SubhanAllah….
Like Ciggeretts, masturbation is connected to images, thoughts, constant physical motions, and lastly the most intense release of different chemicals. So what’s the solution: For every person, the answer might be different. Marriage is probably the most effective, but if you cant get married you must some how replace one Negative habit with other + habits. Design a plan, write it down, and be specific on how you will target every different level of intensity of your habits. Salah is a great one guys!!! The Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) compared salah like a river that flows through a Muslims home, CONSTANTLY purifying them throughout the Day! And what ever it is, Remember it takes consistency to imprint your habits!!!! You can’t try it just once and say hey this didn’t work out. You must be consistant, with your thoughts, your actions, and your intentions. Most importantly remember if you ask Allah for his help and your intentions are pure and sincere there’s nothing you will not be able to accomplish. May Allah Guide Us all, and help us overcome some of our bad Habits. Salam Guys sorry for the long message, All Good Is from Allah, and everything wrong or bad I have said is from me. Salam Good Luck
as salaam alaikum believers, Alhamdulilah
shukran brother Zeyad for posting this information which I found on Facebook (of all places) and reading through the comments, I feel somewhat at ease knowing that as a Muslim, I am not alone.
The information sheds light on one of the reasons why I feel the way that I do. And no matter how many times that I’ve said “this is the last time,” like you said, I go back to what I know will calm the emotions, momentarily. I’ve been married for 5 years and it has not stopped me.
The only advice that I have is to try to stay away from known sources of temptation, prayer, and dhikr. A crack head should not go to a crack house. With Allah’s mercy, I have been able to stop drinking alcohol and smoking by first staying away from people, environments where it resides. When I felt a temptation, remembrance of Allah(swt) through dhikr soothes me like ice cream on a hot day.
I know that there is no one solution for everyone. Our internal battles are harder than physical war. Keep striving.
as salaam alaikum
@Wallace Naim: Asalam Alaikum brother. Thank you for your courage here.
There is a great relief to know that you aren’t some “messed up” person alone. I would love to read your comments and please ask the most pressing questions you have in sha Allah.
Excellent commentary on the addictive nature of this stuff. I struggled for decades not understanding why I could not make a choice and make it stick in this area of my life. It has only been since I have been willing to allow light to shine in this dark corner of my life by getting support from others who know what I’m dealing with that I have had any success. This can be healed, but one can’t do it alone. Good luck in your endeavor here. The Higher Power, or God, or Allah or whatever we choose to call the One can and will stand with you and bring healing.
Mashallah & JazakAllah! It was great. From various comments it seems like the commentry was fast and many couldn’t get the point precisely.
The point is what I was able to stand, correct me if I’m wrong. Keeping the context in mind, “The moment you feel the desire, don’t get down to fulfill it. Give it sometime and think what else can be done as an alternate”. The moment you’ll find the alternate your brain will automatically stop giving you the same option again & again. With alternate it doesn’t mean that you choose other wrong option, try to be as positive as possible. After all the damage that is going to happen is your own and you’ll be accountable for your actions in this world and hereafter.
It works just like as if you get a headache in the middle of night at home, the first idea comes to mind is pain-killer. If pain-killer is not available then some desi nuskha and then physician if persist longer.
The best way to deal with problems like lust is through Dhikr (Zikr). Make it a habit to recite any Name of Allah SWT everytime possible. Not only recite but also realize the presence of Allah SWT around all the time. It will increase Taqwa. If no one is watching, Allah is watching you, anyways! If you think you will forget Dhikr then make reminders after every hour on your mobile phone, tie a thread around your wrist or buy a Tasbeeh or counter to catch the habit. Once you make Dhikr a habit, you’ll see how world changes around you. On weekends, reading Quran with translation in your mothertongue, reading books or joining a religious gathering is a good option to strengthen the belief and increasing knowledge.
This is a kind of disease and should be treated. I am afraid many of the physicians (for whatever reason) don’t bother to tell their patients (mostly youngsters) the reason of growing weakness and prescribe to them multivitamins with a smile. In these kind of situations our old hakeems were experts and used to tell their patients clearly. As brother Zayed has taken this initiative and tried to inform us all, May Allah SWT bless him with more knowledge and resources to carry on, its responsiblity of each individual to stop others from wrong.
SubhanAllah! Just because of the efforts of one person many got a chance to share their knowledge. Some of the comments were really educational. JazakAllahu Khair
Its not only muslims but so many other ppl I know in america, they masturbate cuase they cant get laid, so even if they quit this addiction then that will make them have sex, and the most scary thing is that they migth turn into gays or lesbians due to lack of contact to the oppistte gender, like tens of thousands of saudis. Girls and Religous ppl dont understand this addiction, they claim that they do. But its the normal guy who understand this addiction, a normal guy who should get married to avoid any addiction and be more responsible, but instead men get independent at the age of 25 to have a degree and that is the time they get married. IT SHOULD NOT BE THAT WAY, men should get married after around 18, but they cant becasue they are financially dependent. Unstaisfied sex life is one of the leading cause of muslim divorce. I was addicted to a point I became psycologiclly sick. But now I only do it to avoid have sex with girls in my university in canada, I am waiting to marry my cousin when I come back. In Islam it is mandatory to get married if possible and many people thses days refuse to let their daugthers get married for some excuses, or just dont want to talk about it. So I dont blame people who masturbate becasue every boy has the same amount of love of girls.
amazing vedio with detailed expamle with the checmical process.
however i suggest that teh muslim men can use this chemical brain process is something useful like turn this desire power to sport or going out or even than talking to a close friend about it.
i am one of the people who have such a desire like any man around the world and i found that the best way is to destract your self by keeping bussy with something else like sport,
soccer or working out.
and i think in this case youe brain checmical procces will be used in something usefull and at the same time you are not going to make God be mad from you.
that`s my opinion and i hope it is a usefull one for all of my muslim brothers.
have a nice day
Salaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu
Baarakumullahu ya ikhwan wallahi everytime i revert back to my perverted habit i really feel sad and dejected after the strong intention made to not do it again, so when i go back to it again it really hurts me bad subhanallah as all the good work before it seems to me to be lost and i always feel weak when the urge took over. Alhamdulillah for the creation of your video and thsi site, may Allah have mercy on you and your family i have come to understand how it works
I think maybe a follow up video on how to combat this using Qur’an and hadith would further kill this disease in our unfortunate hearts Alhamdulillah ala kulli haal
Salaam alaikum warahmatullah wabarakatuhu
what is the way out
grt man this is a good effort from ur side, may ALLAH help u in this…. AMEEN.
salam everybody All i want to say that the feeling of pleasure for me no longer resides its momentary and passes away as soon as it comes therefore i am not able to stop even i can say i know what i need to help me stop but circumstances keep me away for example if i socialize more my mind is diverted and one of my friends was able to stop because of his concentration of technology which is sort of his passion so basically wht i am trying to say is there is always something always that u might desire more what is it ? can u obtain it ? is it right or lawful? and if your asnwers are yes than it all depends on how much effect that particular thing has on u and if u are able to obtain it .
Masturbation for me i have done to such an extent that it is boring yet i cannot prevent my self from it but in the end i guess u need some level of self control other wise nothing will work if any body has anything else plz do share thank u
Aslm alkm bro
Jazak Allah khair for that valuable insight.
I’d like to share a fact though. After a long time, I recently happened to watch a light romantic movie in which no sensuality is stressed, yet just deep pure love with emotional music attached as well. It took me off porno mood totally into nostalgia of my college days and craving for a good “loving” wife. No thoughts of sex at all.
Any comments on this?
AsSalaamu alaikum,
You have explained the process of addiction in the video.
As for helping, you said to a brother that one must re-wire the limbic system repeatedly.
Do you have any practical advice on how to stop this process or could you explain what you mean by the expression: “rewiring your limbic system’s “memory” over and over again and giving it a new meaning of how you can meet that emotional need.”
This is unclear advice.
It would be great to have explicit advice on how to stop this addiction – I feel it is the number one problem in my life.
Barak Allahu feek
Assalamwalekum its nice topic to share, and its very right what u have said, please give proper solution to avoid this thank u
Assalam O Alaikum..
to all my muslim brother’s here… well for so long i was trying to control this part of my life . n as working for network admin . i had rites to play around with my computer so every day of my life i was just in to porn..
one fine day i deleted all from my computer just on a click i used to download porn . n the same ammount of time i used to give for porn movies . i made that in my namaz
so i just have a good advice to every 1 . its ur brain thats all . n trust ALlah . give 5 to 10 mins every day for each prayer .. will get u result . to all my muslim brother’s here .
belive One ALlah n his prophet pbuh..
Salam !!!!
I was addicted but I overcame the habit by following the following simple process.
1) Get a good web filter. http://www1.k9webprotection.com/
It is free and the best protection you can get. Even if you are not addicted it is very important to have this filter because this can save your kids.
I created a long password that I did not remember and gave it to friend of mine. I told him that he shall give the password only after talking to me and delaying it by a day. This let the urge pass.
Second step i took was to let my self go when I really felt the urge without watching porn or trying to hunt for porn. I did not want to take on two evils at one time.
Once i did not watch porn for a few months i did not feel the urge any more.
The final step is to break the Mas*** habit.
So I hope that i can keep my process going but once you don’t indulge your self for a few months then it is easier to not get indulged.
Wishing everyone the best.
Maybe I am not clear in my last step but I have actually broken the last habit as well. May Allah help me keep the process broken.
How comprehensive? Well done brother. Well compiled.
Really, I would have been near to perfection if did not had this evil addiction. trying to resist it leads to failure, and failure leads to hopelessness.
I just want to get rid of it. I have tried everything. everything!
Nothing helps.
Fully agree with you.
AA,
Jazkallah khairun, you are truely doing good work to help the youth get out of this illness. Please keep the videos coming.
ws
thanx bro, now how to stop?????
I wish my father had warned bout the ills of such actions, and by the time i was educated to how wrong it is, I think I was already addicted. Even so its easier to overlook the punishments of the grave when u are so young. I had no idea of the real world ramifications of all the chemical reactions and now can see how they have impacted in my living a normal life. InshAllah your efforts to remove this hidden plague from our society will be successful. Ameen.
A few haddiths and ayats i found interesting
“Nabi (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said something to the effect, ‘Seven persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.
A person who masturbates.
A person who performs the act of sodomy.
The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
A perpetual drunkard.
The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
The person who harms his neighbors so much so that they curse him.
The person who commits adultery with his neighbor’s wife.”
“Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said something to the effect, ‘O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.’”
“Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said something to the effect, ‘The person who performs Nikah with his hands (i.e. masturbates) is cursed.”
“Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Álayhi Wasallam) said something to the effect, ‘Allah Taãla will inflict a punishment on a group of people because they played with their private parts.’
JazakAllah for this.
Thank You for sharing. Explains it really well for Muslims in a intellectual manner. I wish I had known this a while back.
Thank You.
May Allah Bless You.
Keep up the good work.
Salamun Alaikum.
I noticed that it happens in particular times :
When I eat a lot
When Im really tired after physical effort
When the weather changes before a storm
During these times I feel most vulnerable
and Allah knows best
This is awesome,i really enjoy the video [samon].May ALMIGHTY ALLAH [SAW} reward u…i learn from this & i want the view to make used of it..Asalam alaekun.
salaam mualikum that was a very powerful video. and it’s something i need to learn more about.
salaam mualikum brother do you more videos, if you do let me know. salaam mualikum.
yup good video as fellows said . but now .. how to stop ?!!!
yeh this makes sense and i think it has made some impact on me
well the reason is that i cant sleep at night i mean i go with out it for days weeks months but than it happens when i cant sleep one night and it slowly becomes an every night kind of party wallahi its disgusting and shameful..please yelp
i really appriciate this awesome research and efforts made by my islamic brothers,jaza kallah khair…i wish there had been much of the cure discussed in this forum about this lament…no doubt thats Allah subhanataallah who has given us birth and developed the whole human body with all those chemicals discussed …but they have been made just to testify us,how do we keep our promise to Allah and his prophet being muslims we should not even think about these things but sorrowfully we do it with the flow of emotions…i request to the ppl who have done all the reasrch to upload something about the cure to this disease.
FEEAMANALLAH.
This is an extra-ordinary blog .. As a non-muslim, i just checked it this information.. this thing is totally based on The Holy Quran and Science..
Just wondering only one thing: i have to practice but, is there any kind of medicine we have still in modern world..
Thanks a million.
Samir
salam brothers,
i really do understand why its so hard to stop, but when i stop i get extremely horny and have alot of lust which i cannot resist without doing the sin of masturbation.
should i masturbate or should i keep having lust and it can well further lead to having a sexual relationship
please help
Assalam Alaikum,
First May Allah reward you for this video and please be patient for my following feedback:
1- your Ads title on Facebook is soooo offensive that I thought it something belongs to Anti-Islam people! I really recommend you to take more care about that. However, it got changed a little after few times of ignoring it as offensive content!
2- you have related amazingly a hadith to a scientific analysis which I raise my thumb high for it.
3- Your video was all about “Why?” but I don’t see an answer of the most important question which is: “how to quit?” because whether its chemicals…or weeek faith or any other reason…the addiction has happened already! now how to get rid of it?!
Thank you
Assalamu Aleikom one and all
May ALLAH bless you all, especially brother Zeyad for this great effort of spreading the awareness in a scientific way based on the teachings of our Prophet Peace be upon Him and based on the discoveries of modern science.
I agree that marriage is not the solution for masturbation or porn addiction, for there are many married men and women out there who still indulge in this destructive addiction, or worse, cheat on their spouses, which could be a result of porn addiction, unless ALLAH Subhanahu wa ta’aala shrowds them in HIS mercy and grants them Tawba (repentance).
Ah that so called limbic system… the fact of life is that we have it… and the other fact is that WE need to be the boss of it, and not the other way around.
In order to re-wire, there must be severe mujaahada (struggle) against the self and that urge for the quick fix. It is severe, except for those whom ALLAH makes it easy for… the mujaahada will have to take place time and time again until the memory gets replaced and the re-wiring is done. For example, when you get the urge -and that happens mostly when you get the chance to be by yourself- you could get into the habit of jumping quickly, almost as if you’re being catapulted, and going to make Wudu, maybe twice or three times just to fix in your brain that this Wudu is for a special purpose, and concentrate on the Wudu and get your mind off of the desire for the old habits… then go and pray.. if we pray and establish the connection between us and our LORD, then HE will surely help us.
Lastly, when will we start truly believing that we are constantly being watched, surveilled and recorded by the two angels on our right and left?… I sometimes talk to them, even though I can’t hear them talk back to me, but I just talk to them to re-affirm to myself that I know they are there, in order to increase my awareness of them. After all, the pain of embarrassment is more severe than bearing the pain of the call of the limbic system… when you realize that you are being watched, your itch can always wait for another time to be scratched
Wassalamu Aleikom
Yaman
gud info shukran u a good help in this bad habit, may we learn and stop this behavior soon ameen
el hamd-lelah
i have stop from more than 2 years now.
dont wana go bk coz it is uncontrollable.
thank you for the interesting video brother.
Excellent info,
I always felt it had something to do with chemicals in the brain.
I managed to break free from masturbation for 3 YRS and it wasnt by my own self control, rather i ended up behind bars!
Although i had tried to stop before goin to prison i just couldnt and just as others have said i had kept saying this is my last time.
I’m not the typical guy who you’d expect to go to prison and anyone who knows me was shocked.(including myself).
To cut a long story short i believe masturbation clouded my way of thinking and my personality.
All i was doing was work,work,work and masturation any chance i got !!!
Prison helped clear my mind and the question WHY?
I’ve always been good to others (never even had an outstanding parking ticket) WHY AM I IN PRISON?
I prayed, and focused on Islam. Thought about everything i had been taught and started asking myself questions. I couldnt really get enough literature or the right atmosphere to study inside so i decided to learn more about my faith upon release.
Although the food inside was half the quality of what we have outside, i was healthier.
I realised i had gone to prison for a reason.
Outside i had become blind.
Work,Material things,masturbation, i had lost my way,my own self. without even realising it.
Unfortunatily upon my release and other factors taking hold in my life i began to return to the same old routines…
but because of my past experience i realised i was again regressing back down a slippery slope…
I managed to pluck up the courage to completely change my way of life,
Broke free from my business which was stressfull and time consuming.
Studied Islam more and started Salat.
Fear of Allah (SWT) and the realisation nothing here on earth is going with me.
These worldly pleasures are here only temporarily.
Everytime i get the URGE i think about Allah. Allahs words in the Quran. Allah’s guidance. Should i go against Allah’s guidance for a few moments of pleasure? and the downword path for the rest of my life?
Its only been a very short time since i stopped and i came across your information on face book.
The info you provide is excellent.
Its not only that which has strengthend me further. Its the fact that i now know that there are many muslim brothers like me who are or have been stuck in the same cycle. I had begun to think there was something wrong with me…
Thank you and may Allah Bless Ameen.
I FIRST STARTED WATCHING PORN IN THE 90′S. MY PARENTS DIDN’T SMOKE OR DRINK OR WATCH PORN. THERE WAS NONE IN MY HOUSE. I FOUND THIS VHS TAPE, IT WAS LIKE IT WAS LEFT THERE JUST 4 ME. I DIDN’T PICK IT UP AT FIRST,NOT SURE WHAT 2 DO. I TOOK IT HOME AND WATCHED IT AND HAVE BEEN HOOKED EVERY SINCE. I ALWAYS SAID I WOULD STOP AND HAVE TRIED MANY TIMES, BUT ALWAYS SEEM 2 GO BACK 2 PORN. I THINK IT HAS AFFECTED MY SEMEN, I’VE BEEN MARRIED FOR AWHILE AND STILL HAVE NO CHILDREN. I HAVE TO NEED TO STOP BUT DON’T KNOW HOW. INSHA’ALLAH
ASSALAMO3ALIKOM. men al7a9a2e9 sama3 l9or2an wal3amal bimayordi llah wa salat wa sama3 lmaw3ida o l2e3rad 3ala nnadar ila nnisa2 wa tajannob lams l2enath wa l2aflam lkhali3a wa salat wa do3a2 kollohom yosahimona fi l2e9la3 men hadeh l3ada lkhabita allati la yatimm illa bitawba.wassalamo3alikom
The solution is provided in Islam that is you get married and when your need arises, you can fulfill that need with your wife freely.
But in today’s world our wife somehow have the power to decide when she can let you fulfill your need. That is the problem that need to be address too. Once someone cannot fulfill the need the halal way, our mind will start to divert our attention to the haram way.
assalamualaikum brother Zeyad, i am glad i found this website, because I am close to getting married & this addiction is killing me, I keep making the promise to myself that i wont return but i do so, I think it does make sense what you said about the chemicals doing the work!!! I hope that you post the cure ASAP because we all need it, and inshaAllah, by Allah’s mercy, it will be helpful for all…
JazakAllah Khair
This is a great video and I really respect Zeyad for all his hard work put into this to help as many Muslim brothers as possible. I have to say that I have been addicted to watching porn for many years now. But, I never watched it every single day. I still feel like I am in control of myself and I am still battling this “porn addicting” situation. But, what should a person do if he has stopped watching porn for a long time and all of sudden it comes back to him, let’s say, for reasons like finding nothing else to do and you are bored at home? I know this may sound like a silly question because I could just keep myself busy with reading books or something but I really feel like I have no other choice. Please advise me on this situation.
Sallam Alaikom,
Can you explain to me the Hadith Please? And if you have other Hadith’s in regards to Zina, mastarbation and pornogrophy can you please send that to my email.
Allah Hafiz
And Thank you so much for advising us and making us understand how to control ourselves when shaitan prevails.
@S.nasir – thanks your your question, and no it’s not silly. Boredom is one reason may people turn back to patterns of behavior that aren’t healthy or productive – it could be getting lazy, watching TV, and eating through a whole pizza, clicking around on the internet “just for the heck of it,” and then seeing an image, and slowly finding your way into a porn site, and since you are already there, masturbating.
It seems “harmless,” a slip base don boredom.
In reality, there is something deeper missing – if bored, why not connect with a friend, call up a family member, go to the masjid, and spread salams with others, go out for a walk…
It’s not about boredom when you break it down, there is something else missing in those moments, and possibly a deeper emotion or set of thoughts you don’t want to feel or face.
If you go back and explore that moment, see what else you can find. And I think this is a great time for all of us to be reminded of Surah Al’Asr for motivation on staying focused with our precious commodity: time and how it’s spent.
Thanks for sharing your question brother.
@ pappa – may Allah continue to strengthen you in your resolve and all the brothers here.
Amazing reflection you shared about finding yourself healthier in prison than on the outside.
Many brothers think that if they could just be removed from the fitnah of the world, they would be fine. But at some point, as you did I imagine now after leaving prison, one realizes we are meant to live in the world, which means that Allah didn’t leave us without any support, but we all have to connect to our deepest purpose on this life, not just logically in our heads and on our tongues, but begin to feel in the core of our being, what this purpose means, and all the places in our liv whaes where that purpose isn’t shining light.
The chemical component is important to grasp, but so is retracing one’s steps to the “beginning” before this happened to see what was missing internally then.
The solutions, brother, remember, is always internal, with the exception of the help of Allah, Rabil ‘Alameen.
assalamoalikum, thank you for the meaningful insight, this made alot of since since i learned some of this in my psychology class (sadly, back then it had no effect on me)
salam’alaikum.
jazakallah khair my brother.
just one question, how can we apply this knowledge to stop us from repeating these things again in the future?
JAZAK ALLAHU KHAIR FOR YOU EFFORTS IN HELPING BROTHERS AND POSSIBLY SISTERS IN BREAKING THE PORN HABIT, I NOW REALIZE MORE NOW THAT IT IS A ADDICTIVE CHEMICAL REACTION AND I CAN RELATE TO THAT FEELING THAT RASULILLAH SPOKE ABOUT BECAUSE I FEEL THAT CLOUDY LIKE FEELING AND IT FEELS LIKE I’M MENTALLY EXHAUSTED AFTER THE ACT, INSHA ALLAH MAY ALLAH(SWT) GUIDE YOU TO INFORM US FURTHER ON WAYS TO DEAL WITH THIS FITNAH, BUT I WOULD LIKE TO HEAR WHAT YOU SAY ABOUT OUR PORN ADDICTION LEADING US TO JANNAH, I KNOW ITS NOT IN THE LITERAL SENSE AND ITS IN A FIGURATIVE SENSE ALLAHU AALAM, BUT I WOULD APPRECIATE TO HEAR YOUR EXPLANATION ON THAT, AND I DO AGREE THAT WATCHING PORN IS NOT AS SERIOUS AS ACTUALLY COMMITING ZINA BUT STILL IT POLLUTES OUR HEART AND CAUSES PERVERSION, THE WAY I’VE WORKED WITH IT IS THE THIKR OF ALLAH(SUBHANALLAH,WALHAMDULILLAH,WA LA ILAHA ILLA LAH, WALLAHU AKBAR) AND SAYING SUBHANALLAHI WA BIHAMDIHI AND SUBHANALLAHI-L-ATHEEM AND A FEW OTHERS TO KEEP MY CONCENTRATION OF THE PORN BUT LIKE YOU EXPLAINED SOMETIMES THE FRONTAL CORTEX IS TAKIN OVER BY THOSE CHEMICALS AND I GET THIS FEELING LIKE I JUST GOT TO DO IT TO GET IT OVER WITH AND I END UP LOSING OUT ON MY HOPES OF FINALLY CONQUERING THE PROBLEM, ASTAGHFIRULLAH, INSHA ALLAH I HOPE TO SEE SOME MORE OF YOUR VIDEOS ON THIS IMPORTANT STUDY, JAZAK ALLAHU KHAIR, SALAAMU-ALAIKUM WA RAHMATULLAH WA BARAKATUH
Thanks for the post and the video, brother Zeyad, but out of the 86 posts before me, only 2 posts almost touched on the main problem. This is a classic case of confusing symptoms with the cause. This post and the video are trying to solve the symptoms, not answering why brothers are turning towards porn in the first place.
Most Muslim brothers know that Masturbation is haram and that looking at those dirty pics and videos are wrong (and zina for eyes), but our society has forced that upon them. I, myself, am engaged in this activity but reluctantly. I also offer salah regularly, fast, donate, and always praying some tasbeehs. I don’t gaze at half-naked women outside, esp. in summer (I live in Canada).
When our Prophet PBUH instructed unmarried men to fast, offer salahs, and read Quran when they feel those lusty feelings, He (PBUH) meant that for unmarried men to perform those with other things in place. These ways of saving ourselves are short-term, temporary ways of solving our problem; not the cure to abstain from sexual acts for 20 years or more (after all, we brothers are not Catholic monks). Plus, everyone of us should already be praying regularly and fast, anyways.
Let’s take my example. I am 28 years old (that’s 15 years on from puberty). Since, I live by myself in Canada; I don’t have the luxury of socializing with my family (which is also not feasible, since, one of my sisters is married, another in high school, so no time for anybody else, and the only brother is off to university). Since, I’m more of a bookish nerd, I have no interest in wasting time in playing cricket, basketball, or soccer, or for that matter, cracking useless jokes with male buddies. Don’t get me wrong, I have friends. It’s just they don’t invite me to play sports with them because they know my nature. Some other friends are married and are usually busy with their families. That pretty much leaves me with my books, computer, and TV. The most physical activity I get is through gym. But, after getting tired of reading books, watching sports and news on TV and computer, then I have to turn to something else.
Knowing my loneliness (I discussed this issue with my dad), my parents started looking for a wife for me. Remember that our Prophet (PBUH) also said that brothers and sisters should get married as early as possible (after puberty). The secular law made it 18 years. Then, the parents in our beautiful society demand that the brothers must have a high salary, established, good-looking, highly educated and pretty much split in the middle on their love of religion (“fundamentalist” or “moderates”). Islam made Nikah so easy; no dowry, no requirements of salary, physical looks, or high education levels.
When my parents started looking for an Islamic, hijab-wearing, educated (college or undergrad university) sister; not those Muslim sisters who wear yoga-tight pants and then wear a scarf on top of it. Anyway, before I digress, first question my parents were asked, “is your son a doctor, a CA, an engineer, or a MBA?” I was none of those things, at that moment, even though, I was going through my accounting designation studies and was firmly planning to do my MBA. So, going through those studies can easily make a brother reach 30 without ever intimately touching a woman. So, what a brother to do when he gets those strong sexual urges, especially, when he is surrounded by sex at school, work, TV, music, internet, and everywhere in between.
This demand of high education and salary is definitely not making the lives of bride and groom any easier. Divorces are on the rise and broken families are a result.
Beside those problems, parents also discourage inter-cultural marriages. Although of same religion and denomination, an Arab should not marry a South Asian, for instance. Why is this? Because, apparently, a marriage would not last. Another nonsense.
Now, continuing my story, after I got married, I stopped watching porn because after much praying, Allah had given me a halal way to satisfy myself. But, as one another post states, now sexual satisfaction is on the wife’s schedule, not the husband’s schedule. My ex-wife did everything so we never be more than two strangers living together. I fulfilled my duty to support her. I never asked her to get out and find work. But, my wife was more busy with Facebook, Blogs, internet games, and online discussions. Of course, husband can’t force himself on the wife, or the cops will be standing on his door, and cops don’t need any proof of sexual abuse by husband. So, the divorce was inevitable, but very unlike the divorces in our Prophet’s (PBUH) time, getting a divorce in the West can easily become very ugly, plus the amount of time it can take from anywhere between a minimum of year to an indefinite period. And, obviously, a brother can’t get married again until the court has stamped the divorce papers. Islam made the divorce easy, as long as it is also done for legitimate reasons, but our modern society has made it that much harder.
Now, it’s almost one year of separation for my wife and I, so I’ll start the divorce proceedings soon, inshallah. At the same time, I’ll be starting my MBA studies (not to get a higher salary or promotion, but to get married), inshallah.
So, brother Zeyad or any other brother want to elaborate what to do in this situation? By the way, my situation is fast becoming a common situation in the Muslim communities, in the West. Many sisters don’t want to get married in the first place or are looking for that perfect husband (who they can never get because after all, no human is ever perfect) or since, they can’t exactly date, they want to engage to a brother first, then want to chat/flirt/go out for months, and suddenly, they break off the engagement. Since, engagement is no status in Islam, they are basically playing with brothers’ hearts. Some of the hard-working, honest brothers I know (one of them is also a designated accountant and his younger brother just got married … a love marriage) can’t get married because they are small in height. Physical appearance is their undoing. What will happen to their confidence, esp. to that brother who’s younger brother is married before him?
How do I know all these cases? Because, my parents are heavily involved in propagation of Islam in the Toronto area, and families come to us with their social problems. Sisters want to marry later and later in life. They want to be independent, don’t want to take care of their husbands or live in joint family systems. They want to stay like a care-free, young, high-school girl … that’s why, they enrol in colleges/universities after getting married, so they don’t have to do any housework or do anything husband is asking for.
Our great Muslim scholars used to get married and keep studying and achieving great academic success. They were great inventors and discoverers. Personal and professional lives were two separate, parallel lives, and not dependent on each other. Now, brothers have to prove themselves professionally, to get some satisfaction, in their personal lives. Christians, as usual, took the Islam’s good idea, and Christians keep their professional and personal lives separate. Marriages are not dependent on the groom’s professional success. I am not supporting their lifestyle, but Christians / non-Muslims are achieving great things in life, whereas, Muslims are stuck at the bottom of the barrel.
The only thing I or any brother can do stuck involuntarily in this situation is pray. Our Muslim society is on a steep downhill slope, and it will not get better until the younger generation stands up against it, but who wants to be the martyr here?
Good day to all Muslim or non-Muslim readers of this site. I appreciate and congratulate the persons behind this site who are continuously doing their efforts to curb pornography addiction especially among the youth who are susceptible to this.
It is a useful video and it helps to our brothers to stop from the addiction but if we have controlled for a long time then suddenly one day when we are free and we are bored then we commite a sin how can we controle from this porn addiction.
The moment a person reached the point where he thinks about leaving this addiction means that he already created his will and poignancy to stop this thing – but if a person realizes the harm that comes after this moment of instant an unfulfilled pleasure he will wake his “reason” and then create a fighting force against this disease.
and be patient till eternity, because be realistic that thing is really, really wrong.
But i really want people who are plagued with this disease to start think of themselves in context to their reality.
And that is by defining himself; If he is a strong believer or if he is a normal Muslim with little faith but he loves to be obedient or if he is just a person with common sense.
After a person reaches this level of realization he will be able to create his “pattern” of setting free from this bad habit. But the next problem will be what is that pattern.
In the other hand, people just stop